There are a lot of stigmas that surround unexpected pregnancy – both religious and social. Likewise, becoming unexpectedly pregnant is really scary! You’re in a vulnerable place and its easy to become consumed by the all the conflicting information that you’re receiving. You deserve the chance to sort through all the stigmas and untruth to decide how you really feel about your pregnancy.
Here are five myths about unexpected pregnancy.
Myth #1: You are a failure
You are still a person apart from your pregnancy. It does not change who you are. You are a whole, valuable, and worthy individual – a pregnancy cannot take that away. You have nothing to be ashamed of.
Myth #2: You cannot be happy:
Unexpected pregnancy is difficult emotionally, mentally, and physically. It can be punishing, but it is not a punishment. It is important to make space in your mind for the idea that the unexpected can also bring unexpected joy.
Myth #3: Your life cannot continue as it was before pregnancy:
Your life is going to change but that doesn’t mean it’s going to change for the worse. You are strong, brave, and extraordinarily capable of both getting that degree and being a mom; or working that job and being a mom. There are so many women who have gone before you, and you will inspire so many women to continue bravely in your footsteps, after you.
Myth #4: You only have one choice:
You have three choices: adoption, abortion, and parenting. In order to make a well-informed decision, it is important to speak to a medical professional about all of your options, as well as confirm the viability and location of your pregnancy. It is also important to know that no one, under any circumstances, can legally force you to terminate your pregnancy.
Myth #5: You’re not ready to be a mom:
Not only are you everything that your baby needs, but there are also so many people waiting to surround you with support and care. You are not alone, and you never will be. Centers, like the Cline Center, offer a plethora of support options such as: counseling, parenting classes, support groups, and material help.
Remember, your pregnancy does not define you, you have nothing to be ashamed of, the unexpected can bring unexpected joy, you’re extraordinarily capable, and you have more than one choice.